•Having emotions is seen as weakness
•Admitting weakness is seen as an even greater weakness
•Being called a sexual deviant or a pervert because you were expressing your sexuality
•A girl beating you in any physical competition makes you inferior
•Being superficial makes you a pig but a woman being superficial is fine
•Makeup isn’t even an option
•Not living up to the insanely unrealistic ideal of manhood automatically makes you gay
•Being gay is seen as weak
•You can’t control the size of your “manhood”
•You can’t report sexual assaults because being a male victim is worse than being the rapist
•No male specific support groups or movements
•Unequal parental rights
•Extreme feminists treating you less than human
•Women can blame all men or say they are all the same but if a man blames women they’re sexist pigs
•People dismissing your problems automatically because the universe is obviously rigged in your favour in every scenario imaginable
•No one will read this past the title
The legitimate issues listed here boil down to misogyny and patriarchy. If you want it to be okay for men to have non-normative or non-stereotypical gender expression, then you need feminism. You really can’t have it both ways - you can’t say it should be acceptable for men to be feminine, and then say it’s not okay for women to be vocal about their fight for equality.
The thing about the support groups or movements in particular bugs me. Men are the dominant group in our culture, as they are in the vast majority of cultures around the world. Men are the group holding the power. We don’t need male-specific support groups and movements just like we don’t need straight pride parades, or white history months. Any parade that isn’t LGBTQ-specific is automatically a straight pride parade, just like any month where we’re celebrating a history that’s not PoC-centric is automatically a white history month.
Women are regularly ridiculed for being superficial despite living in a culture that pushes Vogue and Cosmopolitan on them as ideals of how they should live, and what they should be concerned with.
I’m not sure what the thing about unequal parental rights is. If you’re married, you have equal rights by default. If you’re divorced, it’s up to the courts, but women usually wind up with custody because they’re more fit to be good parents in the scenario. My parents were married when I was conceived, but as soon as my dad found out my mom was pregnant, he flipped out. He wasn’t to be a father, so my mom wound up having to take care of me by herself. He never bothered to make contact, either - I had to push to get him involved in my life when I was in the first grade. The flip side of that would be the single father who my mom later married, who had sole custody of his two sons because the mother was an alcoholic and a drug user in recovery, and was in no place to take care of other people. Fathers do get custody sometimes. The real issue is that we’re not raising everyone to be equally nurturing. We’re still passing it off as a gender role.
Even the one about stigma regarding sexual assault - I know, because I’ve been through this personally - the stigma is that this thing that we think of only happening to women happened to you, a man, so you should be ashamed. That is misogyny. Make it socially acceptable for women to own their sexuality, stop perpetuating rape culture, and this problem disappears.
Yeah, I just sit on tumblr all day and forget to eat. It’s super effective.
Ugh, I just typed commentary on a post, and it just reblogged the post without my commentary. I will have to re-attempt that later from my computer. Thanks, mobile app!
Like my Wobbly? Great to be back in the CC studio today.
Until recently, I thought the IWW was largely defunct, but then I found out that New York City Starbuck’s employees decided to associate with the IWW when they first organized about 9 years ago.
In honor of the Wobblies, have a Utah Phillips story about them.
Dayton signs same-sex marriage bill at Capitol ceremony
ST. PAUL, Minn. — Gov. Mark Dayton on Tuesday signed a bill making gay marriage legal in Minnesota, the 12th state to take the step, as thousands of onlookers cheered.
“What a day for Minnesota!” Dayton, a Democrat, declared moments before putting his signature on a bill. “And what a difference a year and an election can make in our state.”
Rainbow and American flags flapped in a sweltering breeze during the ceremony, held on the Capitol’s south steps. The crowd, estimated by the State Patrol at 6,000, spilled down the steps and across the lawn toward downtown St. Paul.
// The new I-35W bridge crossing the Mississippi River in Minneapolis was lit up in rainbow colors tonight to celebrate the signing of the bill. //
This is just beautiful.